It’s time to get real about how you talk to yourself.

If you find yourself questioning your abilities, scrutinizing every little thing, and using an overall Debbie Downer tone in your self-talk, it’s time for an upgrade, ASAP.

It might seem like no big deal, because you’re saying it all in your own mind, right?


The way that you talk to yourself has a major effect on your mindset and lifestyle.

If you’re constantly talking down to yourself, your mood and viewpoint on life will take a serious nosedive.

Whether it’s in your head or spoken out loud, what you say will influence your mood, actions, and overall relationship with your health. 

The good news is often it’s as simple as swapping out self defeating words for more supportive, encouraging, and productive words.

Vocab Upgrade

  • “I have to go the gym today.” VS. “I get to workout today.”

  • “I can’t eat that delicious dessert.” VS. “I am choosing not to eat that dessert; it will make me feel bloated/tired.”

  • “I’m too exhausted to workout VS. “A workout will re-energize me.”

  • “I hate salads they never fill me up.” VS. “I am looking for a satisfying salad recipe.”

  • “I am fat and need to lose 10lbs” VS.“I am actively working on getting stronger and leaner each day.”

In a research study published in the Journal of Consumer Research, 120 students were split into 2 groups to test the outcome between using the phrase “I can’t” VS. “I don’t.”

“The group who told themselves “I can’t eat X” chose to eat the chocolate candy bar 61% of the time. While, the second group who told themselves “I don’t eat X” chose to eat the chocolate candy bars only 36% of the time.

A simple change in terminology made a big impact.

Take Action

Healthy habits should feel like actions you want to do, you get to do, you choose to do.

I get it though. It can be tough to overcome negative self-talk, especially when we are always being bombarded with products and images that portray unrealistic expectations. While social media can be a great place for discovering new people, places, and recipes, it can also wreak havoc on your mental health and in turn self-talk. If social media usage is causing you to feel less about yourself, consider weeding through your feed and deleting accounts that you find triggering.

Make it a strict rule to only follow uplifting and motivational accounts that portray genuine people sharing positive vibes.

Your Words Shape Your Life

Your journey towards a happier and healthier life starts in your own head.

As strange as it sounds, it’s true; your words shape your life.

You have the power to make problems appear out of thin air. The more you worry, complain, vent, or speak negatively about a situation… the bigger of a problem you create. Fix your words and many of your “problems” will fix themselves

Test it out – wake up in the morning tomorrow with the intention of only speaking positively about yourself and the day ahead of you. Remind yourself of how capable and strong you are. When a negative word interrupts, simply rephrase it.

Make this an active daily practice and see what unfolds.

Saying is believing so choose your words wisely.