how to quit comparison
IS COMPARISON INEVITABLE?
Let's face it—humans are wired to compare. It's an inherent aspect of our nature.
According to the renowned psychologist Leon Festinger and his social comparison theory, people evaluate their social and personal worth by measuring themselves against others. The evidence strongly suggests that comparison is a fundamental element in the way we humans comprehend and interpret the world.
So, while completely eliminating the habit of comparison may be challenging, you can significantly enhance your life by shifting from mere comparison to thoughtful observation.
Remember, just because someone possesses what you desire doesn't imply it's unattainable for you. Their success represents a facet of yourself that has yet to flourish or a goal awaiting manifestation.
Use the victories of others as inspiration and motivation. Let them serve as beacons guiding you toward your aspirations and take tangible steps to realize them.
Here's the great news: when your thoughts and energy break free from the shackles of negative comparison, your dreams, desires, and goals will flow to you with increased speed.
To disembark from the comparison train and center your focus inward, follow my 5-step process below.
5 STEPS TO STOP COMPARING
① Recognize when you're comparing
Comparing yourself might be second nature, making it easy to overlook when it happens. Be vigilant and consciously break the habit.
② Compliment them and yourself
Celebrate the achievements of others and acknowledge your own greatness. When witnessing someone else's success, offer your congratulations. Simultaneously, recall one of your own accomplishments. Remind yourself that there's an abundance of greatness for everyone.
③ Put it into perspective or eliminate it
Remind yourself that what you see is often another person's 'highlight reel'—their best moments, not the full reality. Everyone faces challenges and follows a unique path.
Unfollow sources on social media that evoke negative feelings. You have the power to curate your online experience and avoid individuals who induce self-doubt.
④ You can achieve it too
Allow the successes of others to ignite your own drive. If they can accomplish it, so can you. The pang of jealousy you feel is a signal of your deep desires.
There's an abundance of everything you desire; seek inspiration instead of succumbing to jealousy.
⑤ Forgive yourself and move forward
Remember, comparison is human nature, so be kind to yourself when you catch yourself in the act. Follow the steps above to rise above it and reconnect with your individual path, goals, dreams, and wishes.
SUPPORTIVE MANTRAS
Mantras serve as valuable tools to redirect your thoughts before they spiral into the abyss of comparison.
Cease Comparing Mantras ↓
"It feels more empowering to stay in my own lane."
"I am grateful for who I am and the person I am becoming."
"I am on the best path for me right now."
"I am focused on optimizing myself and my life."
"I will not lose myself in other people's lives."
"I can celebrate the goodness I see in others AND acknowledge the goodness in myself."
"They are ______, and so am I."
Repeating these mantras will help silence your mind and, with practice, rescue you from the negative comparison trap.
"A flower doesn't compete with the flower next to it; it simply blooms" – Zen Shin
You possess the ability to redirect your focus towards thoughts that remind you of your potential, allowing you to bloom rather than squandering precious energy on thoughts that diminish your power.